Saturday, December 26, 2009


Home. It means so much.
A physical location but oh much more.
Shelter, comfortable, a destination.
This is the known.

Home. What once was, now lost?
Home. A dream unfulfilled?
Home. A foreign concept?
Home. What is that?
Home. Where ones heart is?

Where you and I are sheltered. Home.
When you are comfortable. Home.
When you are safe with me. Home.
Together in our house, wrapped in my arms,
Home you are dear child.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009


Someday my son will ask.
Daddy who is this pictured here?
Who is this in the picture you carry?
Someday my son will ask.

Someday when my son asks
I will say, Son, this is your brother of my heart.
Someday my son will ask.

Someday my son will ask.
Daddy where is he?
I will say, he lives with another family.

Someday my son will ask.

Thursday, October 8, 2009


While my wife was talking with our first agency, IAAP, I was inquiring of a handful of agencies that worked in Taiwan to see if they had any children available in the age range we were seeking.

I got responses from 3 or 4 agencies with pictures to review. Knowing that few children were adopted out of Taiwan in the last year or so compared to China, I thought I would not have that many children to review bios on.

On one particular web site I saw a little boy that intrigued me because his bio indicated no issue that I thought would be a problem.

After contacting our first agency again, my wife was directed to a particular web site to review children's bios. Call it what you will but she was directed to the same site I had viewed a few days earlier and found the same boy.

I show first contact with this agency by me on 19 Jan 2009. Then our kick off date as 26 Jan began with a call to Heartsent, the agency of our adoption of Yu-Hsuan.

Showing the world his referral picture.

A son

Before we adopted our daughter in March, 2008 we had decided to get her a sibling so she would not be an only child. First we looked for a sister for her, someone that would be a little younger. As we had aged out of China, we thought Vietnam would be a good fit since we had friends who adopted from there 20 years before.

Alas as we returned from China, Vietnam was closing. Next we turned to Taiwan but nothing popped for us. A situation locally seemed to be a good fit and we started pursuing that a few months after we came home. That door closed as well as the child in question was having major issues.

Finally in January of this year, we turned to our first adoption agency, IAAP, to see if they could give us an idea of how to proceed. The lady there asked if we would consider a boy since she could testify that boys were ok as she had 3 of them.

We decided to think about this and get back with them. After thinking about the for 2 days, it occurred to me that I had found the extreme joy of being the father of a daughter. If I bypassed the opportunity to parent a son, I'd always wonder what it would have been like. Not wishing to miss opportunity laid before me, I said yes, let's pursue a son.